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The Beauty Within

After conducting a small survey on the subject of beauty I was able to gather responses from many different types of people. Each response, I must say was interesting in its own way. Before I present to you what my definition is, I think it would help if I let everyone know a bit more information about myself and what I use to think about the subject in comparison to the present.

Although I am older and a lot wiser now, I must say that years ago my definition of beauty wasn’t exactly my own. In saying this I am referring to the definitions of beauty that was placed on me by society at a very young age. The media’s definition of beauty is the only thing I had to go by. Being slim, having long hair, even showing a little skin, is what I saw as making an individual beautiful. At a point in time I must say I believed this. The type of women that I found most attractive was the ones who showed the most skin, the ones with the nice ass, the cleavage, and especially the ones. I simply went by what I was taught.

As I got older I was able to get a better understanding that what society and the media said was not only unfair to those that did not possess these specific qualities but that also it was ridiculous. Beauty should not be determined by physical attributes alone but all of the other qualities that make us who we are. Beauty is defined differently in every different culture, and in many regions around the world, but I am sure that we can agree that is every single imperfection, the differences, the similarities, is what truly defines our beauty. Although I cannot speak for the rest of the world, If I was to continue with the mindset I once had I would have become enveloped by this destructive way of thinking which in no way would have helped anyone around me. Think about it this way, if I believed that only women that wore a size 6 fit the category of beautiful, how would a friend of mine who wore a size 16 feel? Would she even want to be my friend? By thinking this way I was affecting the people around me in ways that I more than likely didn’t realize.

Here are a few quotations from a few people who responded to my previous post via Facebook:
“Sounds sort of cliché, but “beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” As stated above the definition of beauty differs from person to person… so for me, aside from the conventional meaning of beauty where someone’s physical features are to please you aesthetically, I think beauty is when you’re able to arouse my mind. It’s when you have the ability for me to dismiss your features and see your character, and still like you. Uh huh… yea that’s beauty right there!!”

“To me the word beauty defines someone that is genuinely a good person in and out. Looks, personality and the way that you carry yourself and most importantly how you treat others is what makes a person beautiful to me.”

“Beauty to me is being intellectually and sexually attractive to me from first sight and first interaction.”
By having a set standard of beauty what happens to everyone else that defines beauty differently, do we say that their definition is wrong? The subject of beauty will always lead controversy. But I think the best solution is to learn to come up with our own definitions rather than relying on the definition of others. In this case, the way that I define beauty will more than likely be different from your own, but once again we can agree that defining beauty based on physical attributes a lone is a sign of vanity and the self-absorption. The first step to finding your own definition of beauty is loving and accepting yourself as you are. If you are unable to accept yourself you will never be able to accept and love others for who they are. Yes you will find the curves of your crush to stimulate your mind, or the biceps or your favorite football player, I ask you to look past those things. Look beyond the biceps, the voluptuous thighs, the soft lips, the sweet voice, the broad shoulder, and look deeper, and eventually you will be able to find all of the other things that make an individual and maybe then you might change your definition, maybe not, but it’s worth a try.

Thank you, to everyone that took the time out to comment and give their opinions, it was sincerely appreciated.